Since the Lord disciplined Adam for harkening to his woman’s voice, this sin was deeply embedded into the genetic offspring of men who descended from him.
I am well familiar with the subject matter of this essay, and how emotionally charged it can be. I encourage the reader to put aside any associated negative emotions that may trigger and read what is REALLY expressed in the essay. The truth must be learned before it can be applied.
this was an amazing post. I love my husband so very much, he is the moral compass in our relationship(what is the best way to treat a given situation in both action and discussions of how to judge all sides), he is also so very patient with my many,many shortcomings. I could go on, but my point is; I do feel he has trouble leading us forward in areas of HIS passions, HIS goals, HIS irritations with me and I want to do every thing in my power to fight the flesh to make sure it is never something I am doing to make him struggle. I would have to say his lack of coming up with things he wants to push out of ruts for(from his own heart & soul, not something I have been talking nonstop about), is one of my biggest resentment areas toward him. I am VERY grateful and intrigued by this post.
How can I help, and not harm? I have always been that girl who wants the strong warrior knight that can kick a*$, but loves and takes care of me.Since I have a low self worth many times the thought of my husband choosing me,me??!!, has always made me feel so blessed. I wish I could convey how much I love it when he does talk to me, or instruct me in what I call his "his work voice, or work Chris". That's when I feel so close and team mate, battle helpers to him.I'm afraid at times that I babble so much about goals I want us to accomplish has caused my voice to become a white noise to his ears very often. I profess to still treasure his point of view being expressed to me with undivided desire to communicate it to me(instead of uh, huh, um yeah, okay, just tell me what I can do to help you);yet I must admit I interrupt him in excitement many times when he does. We are aware of these challenges, but have very few(actually zero) true mentor in this area of a person, or a marriage's life.We are hopeful but know we are in a kinetic, psych., and spiritual war and feel lost. We feel God gave us each other as a deadly weapon against the enemy, yet are frustrated by lack of knowledge of how to arm us with this tool for a fulfilled life for happiness, service to Christ to bring Glory toHim by Honoring this blessing and saving our nation, and doing so by showing the beauty, power, and genius of God's Plan for man's salvation and victory over evil once and for all.)
Sorry so long, but if you have any advice or fellowship groups(We r desperate for human friendship and mentorship. I'm a girl, but in this case I lack friends besides my husband .)Applause & thanks again for this VERY Insightful, and sort of sad post. Carry one with all you write, am truly blessed to have been led to your posts. God is powerfully at work in the world.Be Blessed and prayers to you.Lauren & Chris
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ps: look @ that I naturally put my name first....you are right we are unknowingly doing little things like that.crazy, crazy🤔😢🫨
I think this is a great plan. Sorry it took a few days to get back. I told Chris about you. No offense but I did say , I hope Dr.Phinney isn't a bot or Psy-op. We decided that even if you are either you are a bot that has given some really great dispensationally based advice.Thank you. I was very touched by the lonely man.So many of the struggles match so many of the exact issues Chris and I have been very lost when it comes to solving them. Chris is going to read the post asap.He works nights and will be having some off time tomorrow. I am going to get book...Christmas gift sounds good, but may give it early. Truthfully a lot of our stumble is because we have an immense amount of trouble getting to worship/fellowship at church.PTSD, low energy, niether of us is a real high energy go getter type.This is a gift in some ways bc we don't look down on one another for failing to achieve worldly(& Godly)goals. The other side of the coin is that acheivement keeps just out of reach, and neither has enough drive to push through. This cycle has gotten very unacceptable to both Chris and myself.I truly believe God is moving in glorious ways to line us up with tools He knows will help our way to Him.Look foward to working with you, Dr Phinney.Also always look foward to your posts.
I think you would really enjoy the teaching of Dr.Charles Clough. He is great.bibleframework.com. If you haven't heard of him already, I think his teaching ties into a lot of your teaching of how the Trinity ties into Earthly Divine Institutions, and relationships.He and Dr. Andy Woods do a series on Divine Institutions that is very good. Find it @ bibleframeworkapplied.com. One more to look at....Chafer Bible Conference has incredible lectures every year. Dr.Jim Johnson was the 2021 keynote and he is so great on creation, and Immigration of peopl groups(first protestants to N.America & others too).He is a scientist with I.C.R.(Institute for Creation REsearch).
Okay, sorry so long.Have a great night, and God be with you and your family, friends, and Mission.Lauren
Wow, if I'm a bot, AI has become indwelt by Christ. LOL I am glad Chris is going to read the article. I think it will help a lot. I will check our Dr. Charles Clough. It is always good to connect with other teachers who teach indwelling truths. Lauren, thanks for the comments. I always enjoy hearing from you. -Stephen, the non-bot.
If we have any further questions would you rather your drphinney@iomamerica.org or would it be better to reach you on Substack comment/reply? You said Chris could reach you for 1 on 1 help/questions @ iom address. I don't want to clog up your Substack(my writing tends to be longer winded than most). Plus, different places for different topics sometimes can keep posts w/post and iom w/iom. Peace and Courage to you!- Lauren, paranoid believer of debunked conspiraciesm lol, :-)
"Men of the remnant are on the rise. Each is stepping forward to re-establish God’s order of management." Amen! God's order is detailed in the Genesis creation account. Understanding God's design and men's failure is key to restoring God's order of management.
Great article Stephen. As an indwelt believer, I see weak men everywhere including me. My wife is not a feminist by any stretch, but she does like being dominant. I see this by feeling like I am in fish bowl with the critical eye over everything I do and say. She likes to think I could not function without her.
Well, we certainly could not function as successfully as we would without them. The key is for the woman to invest her gifts through her man. Without that, two separate ministries, functionalities, and representation dominate the home. Thanks for your honesty. Few men own up to this. I view leadership as a shepherd - prodding and hooking followers along the way.
I am well familiar with the subject matter of this essay, and how emotionally charged it can be. I encourage the reader to put aside any associated negative emotions that may trigger and read what is REALLY expressed in the essay. The truth must be learned before it can be applied.
As a kind of response to this essay, I wrote the following essay.
https://ksradcliffe.substack.com/p/doing-what-is-right
this was an amazing post. I love my husband so very much, he is the moral compass in our relationship(what is the best way to treat a given situation in both action and discussions of how to judge all sides), he is also so very patient with my many,many shortcomings. I could go on, but my point is; I do feel he has trouble leading us forward in areas of HIS passions, HIS goals, HIS irritations with me and I want to do every thing in my power to fight the flesh to make sure it is never something I am doing to make him struggle. I would have to say his lack of coming up with things he wants to push out of ruts for(from his own heart & soul, not something I have been talking nonstop about), is one of my biggest resentment areas toward him. I am VERY grateful and intrigued by this post.
How can I help, and not harm? I have always been that girl who wants the strong warrior knight that can kick a*$, but loves and takes care of me.Since I have a low self worth many times the thought of my husband choosing me,me??!!, has always made me feel so blessed. I wish I could convey how much I love it when he does talk to me, or instruct me in what I call his "his work voice, or work Chris". That's when I feel so close and team mate, battle helpers to him.I'm afraid at times that I babble so much about goals I want us to accomplish has caused my voice to become a white noise to his ears very often. I profess to still treasure his point of view being expressed to me with undivided desire to communicate it to me(instead of uh, huh, um yeah, okay, just tell me what I can do to help you);yet I must admit I interrupt him in excitement many times when he does. We are aware of these challenges, but have very few(actually zero) true mentor in this area of a person, or a marriage's life.We are hopeful but know we are in a kinetic, psych., and spiritual war and feel lost. We feel God gave us each other as a deadly weapon against the enemy, yet are frustrated by lack of knowledge of how to arm us with this tool for a fulfilled life for happiness, service to Christ to bring Glory toHim by Honoring this blessing and saving our nation, and doing so by showing the beauty, power, and genius of God's Plan for man's salvation and victory over evil once and for all.)
Sorry so long, but if you have any advice or fellowship groups(We r desperate for human friendship and mentorship. I'm a girl, but in this case I lack friends besides my husband .)Applause & thanks again for this VERY Insightful, and sort of sad post. Carry one with all you write, am truly blessed to have been led to your posts. God is powerfully at work in the world.Be Blessed and prayers to you.Lauren & Chris
👆
ps: look @ that I naturally put my name first....you are right we are unknowingly doing little things like that.crazy, crazy🤔😢🫨
Bless you for your refreshing honesty. Ok, first, share the "Male Loneliness" article with him for his reading pleasure. Then order the book "Nehemiah, The Man & The Legend." for Christmas. https://www.lulu.com/shop/dr-stephen-phinney/nehemiah-the-man-the-legend/paperback/product-je5ydrq.html?page=1&pageSize=4 Next, connect him to me directly at drphinney@iomamerica.org Tell him I will answer his questions and growth challenges one-on-one. What do you think, Lauren?
I think this is a great plan. Sorry it took a few days to get back. I told Chris about you. No offense but I did say , I hope Dr.Phinney isn't a bot or Psy-op. We decided that even if you are either you are a bot that has given some really great dispensationally based advice.Thank you. I was very touched by the lonely man.So many of the struggles match so many of the exact issues Chris and I have been very lost when it comes to solving them. Chris is going to read the post asap.He works nights and will be having some off time tomorrow. I am going to get book...Christmas gift sounds good, but may give it early. Truthfully a lot of our stumble is because we have an immense amount of trouble getting to worship/fellowship at church.PTSD, low energy, niether of us is a real high energy go getter type.This is a gift in some ways bc we don't look down on one another for failing to achieve worldly(& Godly)goals. The other side of the coin is that acheivement keeps just out of reach, and neither has enough drive to push through. This cycle has gotten very unacceptable to both Chris and myself.I truly believe God is moving in glorious ways to line us up with tools He knows will help our way to Him.Look foward to working with you, Dr Phinney.Also always look foward to your posts.
I think you would really enjoy the teaching of Dr.Charles Clough. He is great.bibleframework.com. If you haven't heard of him already, I think his teaching ties into a lot of your teaching of how the Trinity ties into Earthly Divine Institutions, and relationships.He and Dr. Andy Woods do a series on Divine Institutions that is very good. Find it @ bibleframeworkapplied.com. One more to look at....Chafer Bible Conference has incredible lectures every year. Dr.Jim Johnson was the 2021 keynote and he is so great on creation, and Immigration of peopl groups(first protestants to N.America & others too).He is a scientist with I.C.R.(Institute for Creation REsearch).
Okay, sorry so long.Have a great night, and God be with you and your family, friends, and Mission.Lauren
Wow, if I'm a bot, AI has become indwelt by Christ. LOL I am glad Chris is going to read the article. I think it will help a lot. I will check our Dr. Charles Clough. It is always good to connect with other teachers who teach indwelling truths. Lauren, thanks for the comments. I always enjoy hearing from you. -Stephen, the non-bot.
If we have any further questions would you rather your drphinney@iomamerica.org or would it be better to reach you on Substack comment/reply? You said Chris could reach you for 1 on 1 help/questions @ iom address. I don't want to clog up your Substack(my writing tends to be longer winded than most). Plus, different places for different topics sometimes can keep posts w/post and iom w/iom. Peace and Courage to you!- Lauren, paranoid believer of debunked conspiraciesm lol, :-)
Yes, email is best for private communications. Use Substack for comments on articles unless personal counsel is needed.
I have Dr. Phinney's book on this....TOTALLY FREAKING AWESOME!!!!!!!!!
Men...you REALLY need to read this...then...GET THE BOOK. (If your "Man Enough".)
Challenge Made...
Keith, this article is stirring up a host of interest. Thanks for the blunt but positive review.
"Men of the remnant are on the rise. Each is stepping forward to re-establish God’s order of management." Amen! God's order is detailed in the Genesis creation account. Understanding God's design and men's failure is key to restoring God's order of management.
Bless you, Roddy. It' all about God's order. Amen?
Great article Stephen. As an indwelt believer, I see weak men everywhere including me. My wife is not a feminist by any stretch, but she does like being dominant. I see this by feeling like I am in fish bowl with the critical eye over everything I do and say. She likes to think I could not function without her.
Well, we certainly could not function as successfully as we would without them. The key is for the woman to invest her gifts through her man. Without that, two separate ministries, functionalities, and representation dominate the home. Thanks for your honesty. Few men own up to this. I view leadership as a shepherd - prodding and hooking followers along the way.
Feminism is evil. Isms are evil in most instances.
https://vonwriting.substack.com/p/it-is-the-womens-fault
Thank you, Marian, for your encouragement. Bless you.