Male Loneliness is Out of Control

Since the Lord disciplined Adam for harkening to his woman’s voice, this sin was deeply embedded into the genetic offspring of men who descended from him.

This article is an extended review of Biblical maleness & femaleness.

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Thanks to the progressive movement of female dominance, men now have less trust in the female gender. Their Biblical view of women as friends, family, and spouses has disappeared. Thirty years ago, this was not the case. Five times as many men now report they suffer from loneliness due to this ideology - they are friendless. Men are now running to the internet to gain friendships.

Wait, I thought the internet was designed to increase friendships?

Not according to a study conducted by the Survey Center on American Life. The study conducted involved interviews with a random national sample of 2,019 adults living in the U.S. and shows that only 59% of Americans, in general, report having a best friend today compared to 77% in 1990. And while 30 years ago, 55% of men said they have at least six close friends, just 27% now report the same. From a historical-cultural view, that means something is horrifically going up-side-wrong.

On the other hand, the survey revealed that only 10% of women had experienced a decline in friendships. In fact, in many cases, they have increased. So…why are men suffering the most?

The survey explained that the decline in close friendships is especially concerning for young adults and singles who traditionally rely on their friends for emotional and personal support. With the shifting trend, the data shows that young men increasingly turn to their parents for support as their friends. While this is not a “bad” thing, the survey reveals a deeper problem with males.

From a psychological perspective, this data declares that our millennials and Generation Z-ers are clueless about forming friendships. However, this survey reveals a deeper issue – it is our males who are slipping into loneliness.

So, why isn’t the internet improving relationships for men?

While you would think the digital age would have increased friendships, the masses intuitively know that the internet is the loneliest place on earth - particularly for men. Furthermore, we need to review the “why” men are on the losing end of this cultural demise.

As you might know, feminism has been rising for thirty-plus years. Feminism activates Adam’s sin in the garden – that of harkening to the voice of his woman. Due to this, men associate the internet with sexual pleasures - not relationships. Women are the opposite of this dynamic. Thus, men tend to use the internet to seduce themselves without the dominance of a woman getting in the way. We psychologists call it passive compliance.

Then to Adam, He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat from it’; Cursed is the ground because of you; In toil, you will eat of it All the days of your life.” (Gen 3:17)

Harkening or listening in the original Hebrew text means obeying. Instinctively, men resist obeying women - it is in their design. While listening & respecting women, particularly wives, is of utmost importance, men cower into passivity when they habitually submit to women - that is unless it is of sexual nature. Listening to women is healthy. However, habitually obeying women retards a man’s ability to lead - as in the case of Adam harkening to the voice of Eve. It violates God’s leading method - God to man, man to woman, and woman to child.

As for Eve’s generational sin, women from her womb tend to default to attempting to rise above male leadership. Due to this reality, God disciplined her with three consequences. Here is what He said.

To the woman, He said, “I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, in pain, you will bring forth children; Yet your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” (Gen 3:16)

Even though our “Christian culture” has completely erased these three consequences, including the mandate of her husband ruling over her, God never changed this doctrine.

Prophetically, within this error/sin, Satan set in motion the future pathway of the Antichrist, introducing his ever so popular Great Whore – the spirit of Jezebel (Rev. 2:20).

What is this spirit of Jezebel?

Well, it is not only feminism in real-time; it is the assigned religious leader for Satan. She will be a “she god” for his 7-year reign. According to prophecies revealed in Nehemiah & Revelation’s book, she is referenced as Horus, the all-seeing eye. Revelation’s book calls her Jezebel.

Before I lose my female readers, please hear me out.

Since the Lord disciplined Adam for harkening to his woman’s voice, this sin was deeply embedded into the genetic offspring of men who descended from him. To put it in modern terms, men fear dominant women. As soon as a woman rises above the infrastructure of the Holy guidelines of Biblical women, men instinctively cower. They retreat into the same sin Adam committed – yielding to the voice of women, which sends them into a place of loneliness.

Loneliness is due to having no women to lead. Since modern culture promotes feminism, women believe they do not need men to lead them; the male is without a healthy kingdom to manage & lead. Thus, retreating into passivity. Passivity produces oppression. And oppression produces overwhelming feelings of powerlessness, isolation & loneliness.

The two primary reasons for divorce are adultery and the obligation of submission - resisting this verse.

I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. (1 Timothy 2:12)

So, what do these males do? They retreat into the modality of a man without an island. Folks, that is called intrusive loneliness.

If a man has no island to manage, he does exactly what Adam did – defaults to feminine dominance. Adam sacrificed his assigned work/management of the garden to a lesser value, harkening to his wife, which created the violation of taking orders from the bottom up. What was once an innate choice is now the norm of culture – a movement. This is the plan Satan has been counting on since that day to dominate in the End Times.

Man’s greatest weakness is not initiating the appropriate effort in maintaining, rebuilding, or starting new venues to lead. Fact. Men find the idealism of relationships IN leading. When that distinction is taken away from him – he retreats even if the price tag is isolation & loneliness. The baseline is that men develop friendships by working or doing things together, like hanging out with other men and, most significantly, leading others, thus their relentless competition modality. This is why groups like Promise Keepers & Iron Sharpening Iron are stepping up to make a difference. These ministries understand the basic needs of men – men need to empower men while living with women in an understanding way.

BLAME THE WORLD OF SPORTS

When women entered the competition arena back in the late 1800s via athletic clubs, men started their slow fade. As most know, when women began competing with men, the battle of the sexes ensued. The ideology of competition flowed over into all seven areas of life – spiritual, psychological, marital, financial, social, physical, and parental. Doing a fast-forward to modern times, this single misnomer became responsible for gender neutrality within the sports arena today. Which ultimately resulted in the statistic of women dominating 70% of the workforce, sports, politics, church leadership, homes, and generalized leadership. Now, some men need to pretend to be women to compete.

Statistics reveal that most women are threatened by their husbands, sons & male friends attending male-centered gatherings. Stating, We fear our men will slip back into a masculine-centered old-school slavery mentality. While this is not a news flash, most of the Bible is built on male leadership – good ones & bad. However, the Word of God does NOT reduce the importance of women; God remains focused on leading His people through the heads of the home, Church, and the political arenas by, primarily, male leadership. Anyone who attempts to change this fact is revisioning the Word of God. It throws the entire Bible off kilter. Yet, most men and women do that by defaulting to following cultural norms over Biblical mandates.

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Many women believe male-centered leadership is slavery.

Since our culture today is obsessed with anti-slavery, the masses of women are doing a slow fade into Christian Feminism. I have never had a case in counseling where a Christian Feminist is agreeable to the truth that they are feminist. Men know this. Their fleshly solution is to retreat – just like Adam did in the garden.

I am involved in a case where a pastor is struggling with “depression.” I asked him, in his mind, what was the leading cause of his retreat? While anticipating his response, he said, My wife is determined to lead the Church by using me as her voice. Furthermore, his wife had been leading his ministry & marriage activities for most of the years he has been in ministry. This backward form of leadership tempts him with regular thoughts of retiring (retreating) from the pastorate.

In real-time truth, back in 2000, I predicted that by 2025, male suicide would be out of control, which is true today. I also predicted that statistics would reveal the female pastorate modality would dominate over male pastorates, again, which is also true today. Without question, Satan has some kind of sinister plan up his sleeve.

Fact. Women are designed to feed information to male leaders, not rule through it.

As in the case of all leaders, it is the primary role of those serving leaders to feed information to their leaders – not dominate through their input. Women, in general, interpret listening as obedience. This is a known fact, a troubling modality that has plagued governance since the authority structure was introduced to mankind. Or should I say humankind?

If you haven’t noticed, Satan is deluding our vocabulary to be 100% gender-neutral, then you need a wake-up call. Removing maleness from all expressions in translations, rhetoric, and verbiage is anti-God. And… it’s working. Without this deception, he is impotent in accomplishing his end-times strategy. There is no other logical reason behind his relentless efforts on gender issues.

The culture we live in today is plagued with gender issues. So much so, that our children can no longer identify who is male and who is female – including themselves. The cost of this confusion results in a society that propagates homosexuality, lesbianism, and other sexually related demises. Once humanity is confused about gender issues, the Bible’s view of men & women fades into – the Bible is sexist. As soon as that becomes the cultural norm, the Word of God dissipates while having zero impact on a given society. More significantly, the males of society become impotent.

The thesis of this article is this. If Satan can reverse the order of Biblical leadership, he will place his Great Whore in her end-times position – without much resistance. In the end, Satan will establish his leadership style by inverting God’s order of leadership. Since God is male, Jesus is male, and the Holy Spirit is the female representative that conducts the work of Jesus & God, Satan’s inversion illusively blocks God from ruling the earth.

So, what is the solution?

There isn’t one. It is one of the leading ramifications of Adam’s sin. Because of his sin, the shift to men cowering to women will remain in play to the end. Because women, via their flesh, default to dominance, they will continue to resist male leadership while gaining more global dominance. As prophecies conclude, in general, men will become weaker by the day while becoming voiceless in society. Soon, whenever a Godly man leads through his God-ordained leadership, he will be labeled sexist, old-school, or racist. However, a remnant will remain – men & women who believe in God’s absolutes in male leadership. I call them the people of Nehemiah.

The bottom line. Men suffer loneliness because they feel impotent & incompetent as leaders. Remember, men are not fulfilled until they lead. Furthermore, men who have a purpose are never lonely. That is a fact. I advise men & women to get equipped with the Biblical model of manhood & womanhood. As for those men & women who ARE functioning within the Lord’s Biblical model, step forward to equip others – men discipling men & women discipling women. Then, and only then, will we grow God’s remnant and His three primary roles of Eternal leadership.

• God the Father: Cementing & advancing the role of male fathers.

• God the Son: Growing young men into masculine Nehemiahs.

• God the Holy Spirit: Raising young women to assist in male leadership.

The triune system of management has ruled & worked throughout eternity. Why change it now? While there is a Satanic answer, as for me and my household, we will keep God’s eternal plan in play to the end.

A modality not so common today.

Men & women, if you are reading this publication and are challenged, consider going through my latest book “Nehemiah, The Man & The Legend” – a study on the life of Nehemiah for both the leader and the follower.

I will conclude with some good news. Men of the remnant are on the rise. Each is stepping forward to re-establish God’s order of management. However, many men are cowering to the idea of being equipped. Many women are working to block “their men” or sons from being trained up in the ways of the Lord. The reason? We live in a society of refuting being told what to do. However, as a male discipler of 40-years, in the last 5-years, I have seen a major increase in the male numbers reaching out for training. To each of you, I say, well-done, men. As for you women folk who are encouraging & assisting your men & boys to become modern-day Nehemiahs, I thank you.